Scared of totally losing your ex because you feel that a powerful link still binds you together? Read on the following tips on how to win back your one true love.
Analyze your feelings
After spending time in a relationship, it may seem funny to ask if you really love that person. Yes, one should ask himself this simple question to know the options. Being “in love” is very much different from being comfortable with someone. You truly love that one person when you feel that as if a hole was etched in your heart when he/she left. Nothing and nobody else can fill this hole because it was caused by losing a true love. At this point, you are on the right track of finding ways to win you ex back.
Assess how he feels about you
Love works both ways and love will never flourish if your partner no longer loves you. Forcing yourself with someone will never yield a lasting bond. If the causes of the separation are things that can be settled by compromising, such as communication, time management, and goal awareness, then, the chance is high that you will get each other back. However, if the main ingredient to a loving relationship is gone, then, it is best to move on.
100% True Love
When you are sure that what you had for each other is indeed, true love, then this is the stage when you plan what efforts are to be done to win back this very special person. Think back on the early days of the relationship. Were you independent, outgoing, optimistic type of a person, or do you have a great sense of humour? Compare these things to what has become of you lately. Sometimes we tend to drown with happiness that we only see what is on-hand. Little did we know, we have changed. By being “what we used to be” can be a big factor to have him back. Keep in mind that true love grows and produces positive results; it should never become stagnant or lead you to become unpleasant.
Practice Detachment
Even if you wanted to have your ex back badly, do not show that you are desperate. Isolate yourself from him. By doing this, you are opening yourself to other people around you such as your family and friends whom you may have neglected when you are still in the relationship. Discover new activities that will keep your mind busy from thinking about him or her. Focus on developing your personal growth and become the independent person that you once were. On the other hand, this may also have a good effect on the perspective of your ex towards you. When he finds out that you were able to handle the break up and was able to move on, you become appealing to him once more. He may see you as a strong individual and is never going to be a burden in the long run.
Win Him Back By Becoming a Friend Again
Once upon a time, the two of you were friends. Should there be instances that you and your ex will see each other, say a party of a common friend, use this to your advantage. How about wearing that scarlet dress you wore on your very first date? Reminding him of as much positive experiences that you both shared can help him decide that he cannot go on living without you.
Non-committal events can also work to have him notice your transformation. Invite him to join you and a group of your friends to a night out, tell him that everybody is free to bring along a date. He might be surprised for your courage, become intrigued and interested in you all over again.
Finally, everything about this article points towards a single direction, YOU. For you to be able to give love, you must first love and respect yourself. Your ex is either in love with you or not. Never change who you are just to get what you want. All you have to do is be yourself and improve whatever it is that you possess, everything else will follow.
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