Friday, February 18, 2011

How To Get Your Ex Back – Using Your Wits

After every break-up,  most of us to try to mend the relationship.  When both parties have had their time to think, there will always be chance that one would wish to reconcile with the other.  But trying to win back an ex is never that easy.  There are men, who do this aggressively, as if time would run out on them.  Reverse psychology may just be the perfect solution to have her running back to you.

Acting desperate is not going to help get her back.  Women like men who have a strong determination in life.  When a man appears to be wretched, he loses self respect and this allows other individuals to treat him the same.  There are women on the other hand,  who takes advantage of men whom they see as weak.  They will play games, and will continue to do so if you fall for it until such time that they are tired and eventually gets rid of you.  So instead of wasting your time, energy or even money by sending her stuff or texting her dozens of messages in a span of 24 hours, think o f things that you can do to show her that you are very much in control of the situation and breaking up with you was a huge mistake. 


Whenever there is a chance of being with her, say, at a party, never get too excited by hurrying to her side.  Mingle with as much people as you can, especially with the ladies,  and the trick here is to make sure that your ex sees you doing this.  Try to flirt with other women who are at the event, and  avoid eye contact with your ex.  Women are jealous individuals,  and they always wanted to be given the best attention.  Let her come to you , and acknowledge her as casual as you can.  This act will surely irritate her, but wait! Do not panic.  That is your goal.  If your ex is getting  irritated by your actions, this only means that she is noticing you and is actually asking herself what has happened during the time you were apart that transformed you.

However, if you are one who does not want to inflict anymore pain in the recent break up.  You may still have the chance to get your ex back by rebuilding your own self again.  Admit it, you have been shattered inside, and by becoming “whole” again, you will prove not only to your ex but to everybody that you are indeed strong.  Become a happy and optimistic person that despite the blows in your life, prove that you can still rise.  When your ex sees the improvement in you, she may initiate a reconciliation. 


But best of all, just be yourself.  Relive the days before you and your ex got together.  Have fun with your friends, date women, try new sports or a new hobby.  Enjoy life.  Trust yourself that even if you don’t get your girl back, you can move on and start all over again.  The most important thing is that you are happy. Have an awesome relationship with the ones you loved dearly today.

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