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How to Get Your Ex Back – When She Dumped You

You got dumped.  It’s alright, that is, if you still have doubts that she is your soul mate.  You are merely staying in the relationship because you already got used to having your girlfriend around.   But what if she is the “one” for you?  What should you do to get her back?  Follow the following steps, before its too late...

Girls are fickle minded and impulsive beings.  They change their minds as fast as they change clothes.  If you are certain that your ex girlfriend truly loves you, this can be your best weapon to getting her back again.  But this time, you call the shots, not her.

Whenever there is a chance of seeing her or being around her in a gathering, exude your best attitude and act as if you overcome the episode of the break up.  Just be casual, however, make sure she notices the changes in you.  When there are instances that you are to converse with each other, subtly mention the good times that you once shared.  Let her realize that ending the relationship was not a clever thing to do and you can still fix whatever crisis you had. 

But in the mean time, while separated with each other, you should also assess yourself on your shortcomings in the relationship.  Maybe you are too busy lately and no longer spend enough time with her, or you sometimes forget special occasions like anniversaries.  If you really want your ex girlfriend back in your arms, be sure to acknowledge your failures as a partner and bring back the man who she fell in love with.  Better yet, improve who you are.

You can also invite her to a friendly day or night out.  Assure her that it will be a non-committal event.  Be sure to have other friends go with you so that you ex will be at ease.  Of course, as you socialize with other people in the group, mention some of the stuff that you are up to at the moment.  Tell everyone the positive things that keep you busy recently, and make sure to have eye contact with your girl once in a while.  By updating her about what is happening with you, she will get the idea that you have handled the break up very well. 

During times that you get to be around her, intrigue her.  Make yourself look more “desirable” in her eyes.  You knew her well to know what she likes.  Gets a new haircut, shave or wear the perfume that she finds you sexy wearing.  Do extra effort to make the normal little things become extra ordinary when she sees you.  It’s like hypnotizing her without being obvious.  If your girl is not stone hearted, she will easily feel the message that you are trying to send her.  Remember, your goal is to make her come back... on her own.

Girls like to have men who are sure of themselves and can very much handle even the most difficult situations.  They love to be pampered and feel that they are important.  And if you really love your ex despite the pain she gave you when she dumped you, fight for her and get her back without making yourself looking desperate.

That is how you get your ex back. And continue to build an awesome relationship.

How To Get Your Ex Back – Using Your Wits

After every break-up,  most of us to try to mend the relationship.  When both parties have had their time to think, there will always be chance that one would wish to reconcile with the other.  But trying to win back an ex is never that easy.  There are men, who do this aggressively, as if time would run out on them.  Reverse psychology may just be the perfect solution to have her running back to you.

Acting desperate is not going to help get her back.  Women like men who have a strong determination in life.  When a man appears to be wretched, he loses self respect and this allows other individuals to treat him the same.  There are women on the other hand,  who takes advantage of men whom they see as weak.  They will play games, and will continue to do so if you fall for it until such time that they are tired and eventually gets rid of you.  So instead of wasting your time, energy or even money by sending her stuff or texting her dozens of messages in a span of 24 hours, think o f things that you can do to show her that you are very much in control of the situation and breaking up with you was a huge mistake. 

Whenever there is a chance of being with her, say, at a party, never get too excited by hurrying to her side.  Mingle with as much people as you can, especially with the ladies,  and the trick here is to make sure that your ex sees you doing this.  Try to flirt with other women who are at the event, and  avoid eye contact with your ex.  Women are jealous individuals,  and they always wanted to be given the best attention.  Let her come to you , and acknowledge her as casual as you can.  This act will surely irritate her, but wait! Do not panic.  That is your goal.  If your ex is getting  irritated by your actions, this only means that she is noticing you and is actually asking herself what has happened during the time you were apart that transformed you.

However, if you are one who does not want to inflict anymore pain in the recent break up.  You may still have the chance to get your ex back by rebuilding your own self again.  Admit it, you have been shattered inside, and by becoming “whole” again, you will prove not only to your ex but to everybody that you are indeed strong.  Become a happy and optimistic person that despite the blows in your life, prove that you can still rise.  When your ex sees the improvement in you, she may initiate a reconciliation. 

But best of all, just be yourself.  Relive the days before you and your ex got together.  Have fun with your friends, date women, try new sports or a new hobby.  Enjoy life.  Trust yourself that even if you don’t get your girl back, you can move on and start all over again.  The most important thing is that you are happy. Have an awesome relationship with the ones you loved dearly today.

Every Relationship Has Its Time Line

Finding and losing love is a natural part and process of life of every human being.  As Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never  to have loved at all.” We all wanted to experience love, and although the degree of love may vary, still, it is something to look forward to.  But whenever we lose someone, our world always seem to crash, without a chance of recuperating.

As one of the many who has already lost a love, I am sharing my story to help other people recover from the pain of having lost a love of their lives.

I think it is important to know that every relationship has its own time line.  During our teen years, we wishfully think that our “puppy loves” will last forever, but in reality, it doesn’t.  As we grow older, our perspective about love and relationships altogether changes.  We become idealistic and expect more out of it. As we exist, we will encounter different kinds of women who will either be the “one” or just a passing fancy; definitely, the latter will have a shorter time line.

My story begins when my girlfriend decided that she wanted to move in with me in my apartment.  Her lease was about to expire anyway, and financially, it made sense since we would usually spend time in my home. 

I have to admit, I wasn’t ready yet for that kind of commitment.  The current status of our relationship is working out just fine, and for me, it isn’t time yet to move a level deeper.  Of course, I knew that anytime soon, the relationship is about to end.

To make matters worse, I attended a friend’s bachelor party and things got out of hand.  Things that will forever be remembered to have aggravated the situation with my girlfriend.  Naturally, when the word reached her of my wild antics during the said event, she turned her back and dumped me.  I regretted my actions, but I believe that whatever occurred at that party was a product of my defiance to the idea of deeper commitment with my girl.  The direction for which the relationship was heading was too much for me to handle that time.

There are times when I still miss my ex.  We have had happy moments with each other, but I have also realized that she was not the one for me. I loved her, that is the truth, and she will always have a special place inside my heart.  I have spent a period of mourning and over and over analyzed what went wrong.  I was also hurt, but we wanted things differently.  I suppose that men are generally afraid of commitments as compared to women.  I have never intended her to completely leave my life, however, it doesn’t work that way.  I have caused her pain, and I regret that.   I guess what I really want is comfort, of course, in my favour.

In the end, I have come to terms with myself that I have to let her go and let her find the right person who could truly make her happy.  And as for me, I will keep on searching for my soul mate who is still out there waiting to be found.  I promise myself that when I find her, I will never ever let her go again, for I have already found my one true love.

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Lessons I Have Learned From Women Who Dumped Me

Does it make lesser of a man who admits of being dumped?  A man’s ego would usually prohibit them from disclosing that there are instances that women overpower them.  But I do believe that a true man is someone who is not afraid to face the truth despite existing in a society that is judgemental.

I have been dumped, a couple of times.  But despite the ache of admitting it, I have learned life’s lessons through these experiences.  Here’s what I have to share:

Lesson #1:           It Takes Two

When a man is heartbroken, it is very difficult to show how he really feels.  The connotation that men are tough is commonly interpreted the wrong way.  Society dictates that a man should never show emotional weakness, and this becomes my ticket for blaming the other person for all the heartaches I am experiencing.  A relationship has two main characters: me and my partner.  Through evaluation I have come to admit that being part of the relationship, I am also responsible for the problems that occurred, and that I have equal powers with my partner to solve these problems when they arrived.

Lesson #2:           Women Need Their Personal Space

Many men tend to become possessive of their partners.  It is a must that a woman gives full details of whatever activity she may have, including the people that she will be with.  Although we are aware that women enjoy the part of being the right hand of a man, there are times that she should be given her personal space.  By allowing her to have her own time, you send the message that you trust her.  But in cases wherein you have experienced having been cheated by a woman, that becomes the problem.  Trust is a vital component of the relationship, and if trust with each other will be lost, you may be invading your partner’s personal freedom without you knowing it.  And of course, feeling that she is being confined, your woman will force herself away from the relationship.

So why do we need to give our women a breathing space?  Because we do not own them!  We all are human beings who need to grow.  Limiting ourselves with only a few people can hinder our personal growth, much less if we focus on a lone person. 

Lesson #3:           You Get Stronger Over Time

The philosopher Frederick Nietzsche once said “that which doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger.”  True.  The pain that we feel after the break up is immeasurable.  You may think that you are being cut over and over again every time the memories come back. Sad to say, but there are men who end their lives because they think that they can never get over the heartache.   It’s like haunting you.  But little did we know, each morning, as we wake up to another day, the hurting subsides gradually.  Time can heal the wounds left by the break up.  The scar that will be forever etched in your heart shall remind you not to make the same mistakes again whenever you find somebody new.  A positive attitude towards life, your family and friends and other people around you are your most valuable possessions that will aid you to get over the pain.  Utilize all the memories you have of the past relationship/s, be it good or bad, to your advantage in becoming a better person.  So the next time you stumble, get up and hold your head high.

Lesson #4:           Learn to Accept the Truth

Acceptance plays a major role in the process of healing.  A relationship will never last if in the first place, it really wasn’t meant to be.  If your destiny is not designed to end with that particular person, try as you may, it will never be.  Even people who have already started planning the future – getting married, having children, having a family business etc., and even married people still part ways.  However, coping up and learning to accept and face the reality that you two are not meant for each other will allow you to move on with dear life.  The break up may be taken positively, in the sense that, it is best that it ended earlier rather than later when both of you have already given too much emotional investment in the relationship.

Lesson #5:           Good Things Happen Unless You Make Them Happen

And finally, the last lesson I want to share with you is that you are in control of your own self.  Sure, what had happened was beyond manageable, but how you reacted on the situation makes you part liable with the outcome.  Remember, “You reap what you sow”

There are a lot of fish in the ocean, go out, meet new women and just enjoy life.  Eventually, the one person that is really meant for you will come your way.  And this time, instinct will dictate on what you should do.

When Love Still Exists

Scared of totally losing your ex because you feel that a powerful link still binds you together?  Read on the following tips on how to win back your one true love.

Analyze your feelings

After spending time in a relationship, it may seem funny to ask if you really love that person.  Yes, one should ask himself this simple question to know the options.  Being “in love” is very much different from being comfortable with someone.  You truly love that one person when you feel that as if a hole was etched in your heart when he/she left.  Nothing and nobody else can fill this hole because it was caused by losing a true love.  At this point, you are on the right track of finding ways to win you ex back.

Assess how he feels about you

Love works both ways and love will never flourish if your partner no longer loves you.  Forcing yourself with someone will never yield a lasting bond.  If the causes of the separation are things that can be settled by compromising, such as communication, time management, and goal awareness, then, the chance is high that you will get each other back.  However, if the main ingredient to a loving relationship is gone, then, it is best to move on.

100% True Love

When you are sure that what you had for each other is indeed, true love, then this is the stage when you plan what efforts are to be done to win back this very special person.  Think back on the early days of the relationship.  Were you independent, outgoing, optimistic type of a person, or do you have a great sense of humour?  Compare these things to what has become of you lately.  Sometimes we tend to drown with happiness that we only see what is on-hand.  Little did we know, we have changed.  By being “what we used to be” can be a big factor to have him back.  Keep in mind that true love grows and produces positive results; it should never become stagnant or lead you to become unpleasant.

Practice Detachment

Even if you wanted to have your ex back badly, do not show that you are desperate.  Isolate yourself from him.   By doing this, you are opening yourself to other people around you such as your family and friends whom you may have neglected when you are still in the relationship.  Discover new activities that will keep your mind busy from thinking about him or her.  Focus on developing your personal growth and become the independent person that you once were.  On the other hand, this may also have a good effect on the perspective of your ex towards you.  When he finds out that you were able to handle the break up and was able to move on, you become appealing to him once more.  He may see you as a strong individual and is never going to be a burden in the long run.

Win Him Back By Becoming a Friend Again

Once upon a time, the two of you were friends.  Should there be instances that you and your ex will see each other, say a party of a common friend, use this to your advantage.  How about wearing that scarlet dress you wore on your very first date?  Reminding him of as much positive experiences that you both shared can help him decide that he cannot go on living without you.

Non-committal events can also work to have him notice your transformation.  Invite him to join you and a group of your friends to a night out, tell him that everybody is free to bring along a date.  He might be surprised for your courage, become intrigued and interested in you all over again.

Finally, everything about this article points towards a single direction, YOU.  For you to be able to give love, you must first love and respect yourself.  Your ex is either in love with you or not.  Never change who you are just to get what you want.  All you have to do is be yourself and improve whatever it is that you possess, everything else will follow.

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How To Win Your Ex Back – Uncovering the Causes of the Break Up

Have you ever felt alone and empty after a date with a new girl/guy?  Or do you ever feel guilty because despite the presence of a new person in your life, you still long for that same person who broke off with you for reasons you never understood?

Below are five tips that you may find useful to rekindle an old relationship and start anew:

First and foremost, a person who has recently broken off with somebody needs time and space to be able to think and weigh things.  Finding out the reasons why the relationship came to an end is a good start if you believe that it is worth giving a second chance.  Formulating positive actions against identified flaws can be beneficial to both parties.  For example, your guy is late for a date.  Instead of nagging as you got used to, why not this time, ask for an explanation and be open-minded to reasons.  Insecurity plays a vital role why most relationships end down the drain.  By acting mature, you are showing that you are able to handle situations as such, instead of acting like a three year-old on the verge of having tantrums. 

Second, the end of a romantic relationship does not mean the end of your world.  Make use of this time to recharge from the emotional burden that you underwent.  Instead of sulking, consider doing other activities to keep you busy.  Try pampering yourself at a spa or enjoy a weekend vacation with your best buddies.  Remember, if you want to get your ex back, you have to be whole and renewed.  Nobody would want a person who acts crazy or would do silly things just to gain attention.  A person who values self-respect is capable to give back respect.  This trait is likely to have been lost during the relationship and made you doubt each other.

Another tip is to remember and list down the things you appreciate and enjoy doing with your partner.  The time he helped you do the dishes at your parents house, the basketball game you watched even if your ex’ team did not win.  These things, though very simple, formed part of your day to day existence as partners.  By focusing on these things, you acknowledge the good side of your ex and start mending the heartaches both of you experienced during the break up.  The important part here is that, you are willing to let go of the sad moments and concentrate on the goodness that each has to offer.

Next, when finally, the two of you are back in each other’s arms, try doing new things like engaging in a sport that both of you are interested in.  Starting fresh and avoiding the pointed causes of your separation indicates that both of you have forgiven each other, and are now willing to compromise to save the relationship.  Understanding the needs of both sides can be an effective tool to keep the relationship in harmony.  Never commit the same mistakes again.  The reason you wanted to have your ex back is because, with him/her, you are happy, and that’s what matter the most.

And lastly, focus on strengthening the communication inside the relationship. Developing an effective mode of communication can lead both of you to create a shared sense of destiny.  We may never know what lies ahead, but a sound relationship can definitely stand the test of time because you have each other. The main thing is to focus on building an Awesome Relationship.