How to Get Your Guy Back – a Gal’s Guide to Making Up

Every relationship has its up and downs some surpass the challenge, others don’t.  The key words to remember is that, relationships work both ways.  It may be a factor as to who caused the problem, but your reactions to the problem still lies on both of you.

In cases where you are the culprit, have the courage to accept the fact that getting your man’s trust may not be that easy.  And if whatever you did caused a deep cut in your man’s heart, try your best to win him not with your terms but his.

Below are some tips to help you get your ex back:

Acknowledge and make amends

If you cheated, you knew it was a grave mistake, but you did it anyway.  Now, when confronted with the facts, be humble enough to accept responsibility and ask for forgiveness.  The act of cheating shows that you do not respect your guy or you have wanted something that was not given to you, in return, you find someone else to deliver whatever that is you seek.  By doing this, you have shown that your trust with your man is no longer present because you humiliated him by your act.  A woman should seek for forgiveness in the most sincere way she could possibly do.  A man also loses his self respect if he was betrayed by the same person whom he truly loved.

Be prepared to feel the worst

A man betrayed cannot easily find it in his heart to have you back easily even if he truly cared for you.  It is your turn to do the chasing to get him back.  He must first feel that you are really sorry for what you did and that you are taking the chance of reconciliation because you really loved him.  Be patient; endure your part of the pain because your guy is also grieving like you.

Befriend your ex

Rebuilding a lost relationship means that you have to start from the bottom all over again.  Give your ex the time and space to evaluate his feelings for you.  When you parted ways, your connection with each other became strangers, and strangers cannot easily give their trust.  Allow him to assess what has happened and let him decide the fate of the relationship.  If given the chance to be with him, do not come too comfortable.  Being together after a break up doesn’t happen very often, so be careful of the things that you are to say and do whenever given the chance.  You do not have to act desperate though, just be yourself and mean it.  Pretending will never work for you because your guy will be very cautious of your actions.  Doubt will always be a part of how he will assess you.

Learn to give up and move on

A girl will know and feel when her battle is lost.  When you have come to point when you know that nothing positive will happen despite your efforts to get your ex back, it is time to give up and move on with your life.  Maybe after a while, your ex has come to realize that you were not meant to be together, and that he finally decides to close the door of being romantically involved with you.  Let it go.  Look ahead and carry the lessons you have gained from the past relationship.  Maybe you truly aren’t destined to be together and the relationship you had with your ex is just an experience destined to happen to teach both of you some of the important lessons in life. 

Enjoy the feeling of being single and improve yourself.  Sooner or later, when the right time comes, your soul mate will find you.

Getting Over Your Guy – Steps on How to Move On

The following day after the break up of every relationship is the most dreaded day of any person.  This is the time when reality will sink in that everything that happened the day before is real, not just a bad dream.  Coping with pain is probably the most difficult part of a relationship, especially when you still feel that it shouldn’t have ended yet.  But life has to go on.  Below are five steps on how one should start moving on.

First, you need to let out the pain.  You know that you are hurting inside, so why keep it that way? Crying is the most effective way to release one’s emotional burden.  Be smart enough to accept the fact that the relationship is over and try to come up with ways that can help lessen the pain you are feeling.  An example would be to write a very long letter about relationship to your ex.  Account all the good times and bad times that you both experienced.  Write as if you were talking to him through the letter.  Tell him how you feel at the precise moment and you are done, burn it.  As the flames slowly consume the letter, come to terms with yourself that you are now ready to let go of the past, and of the man.   If the two of you are really meant for each other, let destiny do its course, but for now, moving on is top priority.

Second, everything that reminds you of your ex must go.  How do you expect yourself to forget if you are still using the pillow he gave you?  Never!  Collect all the things you received from him and donate it to charity, or throw away the ones that can no longer be reused by another.  By clearing your space with his things, as well as the stuff he gave, it is much easier for you to forget and divert your attention to other things.

Third, they say that men will come and go, but your friends are there to stay.  True.  No matter how many times you passed on a girl’s night out, or skipped a “shopping day” with your best buddies, they will never let you down when you come crying back to them.  You will feel the pain becoming lighter by the day as you and your friends share and exchange views of how to manage such situations.  It is very important to surround yourself with people whom you can depend and trust during this time of emotional crisis to enable you to see the world once again without your ex in it.

Next, you now have plenty of “free time.”  You can now enrol in an art class or try yoga sessions or just simply spend time at the gym.  The things that were put off when you still have your ex can now be given time.  Discover new things that can develop your skills and personality.  Never think that the world around you has already stopped when the relationship ended. There are new things to learn, go for it!

And lastly, be firm when you say that you have decided to move on.  Focus with your goal ahead.  Remember, even if you have all your best defenses at hand, a single slide backwards will put every effort you made gone to waste.